DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of four years recently admitted which he cheated on me personally 6 months ago. I became blindsided. Before the day he said, we thought we shared every thing.
The hollowness and betrayal we feel may also be overwhelming.
He explained that during the right time, he had been coping with substance problems and despair, that we ended up being additionally unacquainted with. Both have worsened in present months. Exactly how may I are therefore blind?
To complicate things further, i’ve a 6-year-old son that has grown to love this guy as a dad because my ex-husband moved away he was born on us when. He’s got been an role that is amazing for my son, and general, a great partner — approximately I was thinking.
He claims heвЂ™s heartbroken throughout the discomfort heвЂ™s caused me. He recently began getting treatment plan for their despair through medicine and therapy, in which he has begged me personally to head to couples therapy to rebuild the trust that is been lost. I happened to be taught to think that cheating may be the end of a relationship, no ifs, ands or buts. We donвЂ™t want to get rid of the partnership, but IвЂ™m struggling because of the choice as a result of the things I had been taught, particularly when We confide in buddies and I am told by them to dump him.
If just I knew what you should do. I want an opinion that is objective. Can a relationship survive such a betrayal? Can we be delighted once more? — HOLLOW IN NY